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Monday, June 07, 2010
but i didn't mean that!

excerpt from But I Didn't Mean That!

 

curiosity

It was the most trying time for the Morris family. The week before his daughter Judy was to announce her engagement, Joe Morris was diagnosed with lung cancer. With heavy hearts, Joe and his wife, Eileen, decided not to tell Judy about her father’s condition until after the engagement party. Despite this devastating news, they were determined not to cast a shadow over her happiness. At the engagement party, the mood was jubilant. As Judy and her fiancé showed off the diamond ring he had bought her, people said what a cute couple they made. They glowed with happiness, and Eileen and Joe were glowing too. Looking at Joe, no one could tell he’d just received such a grim diagnosis. They were grateful to be pulling it off with no one the wiser. While Eileen and Joe were standing around the dessert table with their children, their neighbor Paul came over to them. “I heard you two were at the oncologist’s office last week,” he said, loud enough for everyone to hear. “Is everything all right?” Eileen was horrified and couldn’t control her face. Judy took one look at her mother’s pained expression and ran from the room. Realizing that he’d said something wrong, Paul tried to recover from his mistake. “I didn’t know it was a secret,” he defended himself. “I’m sorry if I upset anyone. I was just curious.” Paul’s curiosity drove him to ask an inappropriate question at the worst possible time for the Morris family. Before blurting what was on his mind, Paul should have used the Q-pts.

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Posted By newharb / 9:00 AM / Monday, June 07, 2010
Thursday, June 03, 2010
become more creative

excerpt from Children of the Self-Absorbed


Creativity, as used here, includes the following:

  • Developing new ways to do things and solve problems
  • Perceiving things from a new perspective
  • Bringing a fresh, new, or novel approach to something that already exists
  • Engaging in creating something that brings you pleasure
  • Learning something you did not know and making constructive use of the knowledge
  • Streamlining, correcting, reducing, or eliminating barriers, constraints, and roadblocks
  • Trying something different
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Posted By newharb / 9:00 AM / Thursday, June 03, 2010
Thursday, June 03, 2010
unreasonable remands and intrusive questions

excerpt from Children of the Self-Absorbed


Your self-absorbed parent may still expect you to be at his beck and call, even though you are an adult and have a life and responsibilities separate from him. He may make unreasonable demands on you to do things he can do for himself, to be responsible for his physical and emotional welfare, to always do what he wants you to do or to be what he wants you to be, to act on his desires and wishes, and to accept his authority without dissent. He seems to think that your responsibilities, such as a job or family time, should be secondary to whatever he thinks or wants. You may try to meet as many of his expectations and demands as you possibly can, but you can never give him enough, and trying to meet his demands may even be detrimental to other parts of your life. Both unreasonable demands and intrusive questions show a lack of understanding and respect for your boundaries. Further, both put you in a position where you run the risk of off ending if you do not immediately comply and do what is wanted or supply the desired answers. Intrusive questions are those that ask for intimate, personal, and sensitive information about yourself or others that you may not want to share. When faced with questions like these, you may need time to understand your own needs, desires, and wishes, and when engaged in an interaction, you cannot take the time you need. You are too busy interacting and reacting.

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Posted By newharb / 8:59 AM / Thursday, June 03, 2010
Wednesday, June 02, 2010
helping your child cope

by guest blogger Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D., author of The Gift of ADHD, The Gift of ADHD Activity Book and The Gift of Adult ADD, and Listening to Depression


The quickest way to transform your child’s problem into strengths is to ask yourself repeatedly “What is right with my child?” This will force you to find your child’s gifts. One parent whose child didn’t do as well as other children in school, was able to tell herself that her child was creative and artistic and she could foster those qualities. When she was tempted to sink into despair when she compared her own son with other kids who seemed to easily do well in school she asked herself “What’s right with my child?” It will be normal to compare your child to others. There is no way to avoid doing so in our competitive culture. I think that there is no freedom from worry when you are a parent, but you can find freedom IN your worry. That means that you recognize that worry is the work of being a parent and you channel it into productive action and stay positive.

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Posted By newharb / 9:00 AM / Wednesday, June 02, 2010
Tuesday, June 01, 2010
good self-talk vs. bad self-talk

Excerpt from Treating Depressed Children


A person’s belief system is comprised of both rational and irrational beliefs. Children and adolescents, like adults, have a particular belief system. Rational beliefs are those that usually tend to be consistent with objective reality and lead to self-enhancing emotions and goal-directed behaviors. Irrational beliefs are generally distortions of reality, are expressed automatically, and lead to negative feelings that often block goal attainment. Irrational beliefs may also remain dormant or inactive and only be activated in specific situations or stressful events.

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Posted By newharb / 9:00 AM / Tuesday, June 01, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
bea wrap-up

BEA 2010 was a success. Jonathan Kaplan signed copies of his upcoming book, Urban Mindfulness and Troy Dufrene signed copies of the recently released When Things Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong. Our sales managers met with their reps. We gave away t-shirts crafted after Present Perfect and The Lotus Effect.

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Posted By newharb / 5:53 PM / Thursday, May 27, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
twitter giveaway of 'buddha & the borderline'

May is Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month. To recognize it, we're giving away five copies of The Buddha & the Borderline


Buddha & the Borderline

When: Today! (May 27)

Where: Twitterverse


How to Participate:

  1. Follow @NewHarbinger on Twitter.
  2. Visit http://twitter.com/NewHarbinger and retweet our current post.

Selection of Winners:

  1. The first 5 people who retweet the post will receive a copy of The Buddha and the Borderline.
  2. We will DM the winners to let them know that they’ve won.

Prize:

  • Free copy of The Buddha and the Borderline! Free shipping!
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Posted By newharb / 10:05 AM / Thursday, May 27, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
pictures from bea

Our booth is set up and we are rolling here at BEA. If you would like to visit us, we are at booth #2942. Some NHP employees are snapping away at different things going on at BEA. You can view all of our latest photos at Facebook page.

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Posted By newharb / 1:13 PM / Wednesday, May 26, 2010
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