excerpt from Disarming the Narcissist

1. The Art of Mutual Respect

    

   Mutual respect entails acknowledging differences between yourself and others without negative labeling. This is the gift of generosity. You accept the narcissist’s different point of view or preference without becoming critical, defending your position, or discarding your own opinions, even when he is clearly off on the wrong foot. You know that, while there is hardly a challenge when you see things eye to eye, differences can set the stage for a long, drawn-out drama. You are aware that understanding something does not necessarily mean agreeing with it. You are committed to understanding, compromise, and mutual respect for one another’s thoughts, beliefs, and desires. You expect the same in return.

excerpt from Let's Be Friends by Lawrence E. Shapiro Ph.D.

Giving Compliments

For You to Know

Giving sincere compliments is a sure way to make other kids feel good, and it can also make you feel great!

What you say to others has a big impact on them. If you give someone a genuine compliment about something they have accomplished, something they do well, or something they’ve been trying hard to change, you can make them feel good for the rest of the day.

Sometimes giving a compliment can be tricky. Imagine you have a shy friend who is trying out for the school play and comes to you for encouragement. Even if you don’t think your friend is a great actor, you can still find something to compliment. You might simply compliment your friend for being brave enough to try something new.

Huffington Post feature by Carolyn Coker Ross, MD, MPH, author of The Binge Eating and Compulsive Overeating Workbook

There are many reasons why you may overeat. You may be a classic emotional eater -- someone who finds comfort in food and eats when happy, sad, angry or at anytime you feel emotional, or you may overeat when under stress. If your boss yells at your or you are working under a deadline, having a doughnut, milkshake or bag of chips makes the stress go away -- at least temporarily.

No matter what your reason for overeating, you are using food as a coping mechanism. This may be a habit you learned early in life when you didn't have knowledge or experience in using other methods of coping. Just like Pavlov's dog, now your body and mind are trained to grab a loaf of bread or a bag of cookies when you feel tense, anxious or stressed. So part of the secret to avoiding overeating is to recognize the benefit of using food to cope.

by guest blogger Susan Eikov Green, author of Don’t Pick On Me

It is very telling that the word “sexting” is not listed in the Merriman-Webster or American Heritage dictionaries. So where can you find a definition for this word that appears on television news programs and in newspapers and magazines? Wikipedia, of course. And that is perfectly apt, because “sexting” is a word born of the Internet.

Sexting - a combination of sex and text - is “the act of sending sexually explicit photographs and messages primarily between cell phones.” And for teen-agers, who don’t think twice about whipping our their phones, taking nude pictures of themselves, and sending those pictures to friends and boyfriends or girlfriends, it is an act rife with serious emotional and legal consequences.

excerpt from The Attachment Connection by Ruth P. Newton, Ph.D.

Raising secure, emotionally competent, cooperative children who have full access to their creativity and expression is desperately needed for the health of the human race and the health of the planet. Raising secure children matters. Becoming more secure yourself also matters, not only for your own happiness but also for the child you are raising. So, no matter what your financial status is, what your culture, your ethnicity, your educational level, no matter if you are two parents, one parent, or a divorced parent, a family-member parent, a stepparent, an adopted parent, a foster parent, or have any other configuration at home, the greatest gift you can give your child is a secure attachment.

So what is attachment?

excerpt from The Holistic Baby Guide

It is unfortunate that your baby can easily develop recurrent and chronic ear problems. At about six months, babies lose the maternal antibodies that protected them from common viral and bacterial infections. After that age they become susceptible, and they need to develop their own antibodies to these pathogens. If one of these viruses or bacteria happens to cause an ear infection, then your pediatrician may prescribe antibiotics. This is often the beginning of recurrent ear problems. Continuing to treat the fluid that collects in the middle ear or repeated red eardrums with more antibiotics just exacerbates the problem. And sometimes babies will have these ear problems even if they don’t get antibiotics. In this chapter you will learn the reasons that these ear problems tend to plague babies and find out how to cure them.

Huffington Post feature by Sheri Van Dijk, MSW, author of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Bipolar Disorder and The Bipolar Workbook for Teen

There are so many different types of psychotherapy out there nowadays, if you're dealing with emotional problems, how do you know what will be most effective for you? In my experience as a psychotherapist, clients benefit the most from working with a therapist who is flexible, and who tailors therapy to meet the needs of the client, rather than trying to fit the client to a specific mold. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers a wide range of skills a therapist can choose from, to suit the needs of clients at any given time.

by guest blogger Sara E. Rosenquist, author of After the Stork

Two of the biggest complaints I hear about bringing home baby are No Sleep and No Sex. So what can you expect? And how can you make the best of things during this difficult time. The number one risk factor for depression at any time in life is sleep deprivation. So it should come as no surprise that the sleep deprivation so prevalent with a new baby could cause major upheavals in mood and in the sexual relationship. And when baby is breast feeding in addition to sleeplessness, many women experience sore nipples and touch overload. So what is a couple to do? How do you stay playful and sensual when you’re tired and your body is on overload? The answers might surprise you.

Huffington Post feature.

• Do you feel your partners value some of your behaviors at the beginning of a relationship but reject you for those same behaviors over time?
• When your partners begin to complain about those behaviors, do you tend to be defensive and dismiss their concerns?
• Do you find yourself stubbornly clinging to certain behavior patterns even when you feel you are pushing your partners away by continuing to do them?
• Do you believe that your other qualities are so special that your partners should not hold you accountable for those that he or she doesn't like?
• When your relationships end do you usually feel unfairly rejected and confused?

If you mostly answered yes to these questions, you may be a relationship saboteur. What that means is that you have repeatedly found yourself ultimately rejected for certain behaviors that your partners seemed to desire when your relationship was new, and cannot understand why.

excerpt from Eating Mindfully

skill builder: mindfulness of cravings

1. What do you usually crave? If it is chocolate, find a way to satisfy your craving in a mindful way. Keep a mini-candy bar or a handful of Hershey Kisses to fill that craving. Bring food with you. Having a plan makes you less susceptible to losing control. 2. Remember the adage, “Whatever you resist, persists.” Approach cravings consciously. What do your cravings suggest about your eating? Are your food desires an indication that you are too restrictive with your food? Do your cravings suggest that you are seeking comfort? Discover what your cravings mean, and find healthy ways to satisfy them. Ask yourself the following questions whenever you find yourself craving a particular food:

• How will satisfying my craving affect my body?
• How will satisfying my craving affect my mood?
• How will satisfying my craving affect my thoughts about myself?