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by Raychelle Cassada Lohmann, MS, LPC, author of The Anger Workbook for Teens
Cyberbullies are like monsters in the closet. They seem to lurk in the corners and under the bed, and their victims fear they will appear at any time. Just like a child who fears the dark, the victim of a cyberbully may be scared of what hides behind the screen. In today’s world, clicks and keystrokes have the power to destroy and alter lives. Bullies use many different forms of cyberbullying to engage their victims in a game of cat and mouse.
Here are twelve types of cyberbullying that exist:
by guest blogger Randi Gunther Ph.D., co-author of Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice
Every day, an average of 160,000 children in the United States stay home from school for fear of being bullied. Last year, bullying made national headlines when physical and emotional violence towards LGBT teenagers led to a series of painful suicides. The immediate response to this was impressive. Dan Savage created the "It Get Better Project" and inspired thousands of people, from Adam Lambert to President Obama, to send in videos about their own experiences with teenage bullying, violence and prejudice. The issue of bullying even made primetime television on popular shows, like "Glee." The public outcry against bullying was a positive movement, but in its wake we must continue seeking ways to stop violence.
Violence is a behavior we can all help prevent. While there is no single easy solution to ending violence, raising our awareness and learning how to deal with violent behavior can help prevent and reduce violent acts.
excerpt from Cool, Calm, and Confident: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills.
For You To Know
Solving problems with other people takes thought and energy. Sometimes it is hard to put aside our angry feelings and try to work things out. Learning and remembering some problem-solving guidelines can make it easier to act and resolve your problems assertively.
C— Calm down. “You have to be calm before you try to solve a problem or you’ll be too angry to think clearly,” she said.
A— Allow a good amount of time. “You have to allow enough time to really sit and listen to each other and work on the problem.”
T— Think ahead. “If you think ahead about what you want to say, what is important to you, and how you might solve the problem, you will stick to the subject and solve things more quickly.”
T—Talk nicely. “No name calling or saying mean things to the other person.”
S— Stay focused on one problem. “Don’t talk about other problems or things that happened days or weeks ago. Just stick to the one problem you have today.”
excerpt from Coping with Cliques
starting off …
You’re thinking that you could never be the bully. Oh no, everyone likes you. Or maybe they don’t like you and they’ve teased you in the past, but you would never ever do to them what they did to you. Well, guess again. After all, you’re only human. If a situation presents itself, wouldn’t you be the slightest bit tempted? You probably would. But resist that temptation, or else the gossip-bully syndrome will go on and on, knocking everyone down and making school utterly and totally poisonous. You can choose to respond in a way that will make it stop.
excerpt from Don’t Pick On Me
Bullies who pick on you like it when you get angry or upset. It gives them the satisfaction of knowing that whatever they did got to you. So if someone picks on you, it’s important to try not to let your feelings show.
by guest blogger Susan Eikov Green, author of Don't Pick On Me.
All children experience some form of bullying. They may the target of a bully or they may be a bystander who witnesses bullying. We usually think of bullying as a physical act – pushing, shoving, fighting, hitting. But bullying can also be verbal – threatening, taunting, teasing, name-calling - as well as emotional. Being ostracized or being the subject of a rumor and gossip can be just as damaging as a push or a shove.
Of course some playful teasing is normal and children need to learn how to "give-and-take" in relationships. But bullying goes beyond that. Many children feel helpless and don’t know what to do when they are picked on. Their first reaction may be to either cry or get angry and go on the attack. They don’t realize that crying or fighting only gives the bully the satisfaction of knowing that whatever he’s done has worked! It won’t stop the bully – it will just make it worse.
But there are some simple strategies kids can learn to help them deal with bullies – strategies that will build their confidence and self-esteem so they can develop healthy relationships and friendships.
Discuss these strategies with your child.
excerpt from Facing Bipolar
You are much more than your bipolar disorder. You do not need to let it define you. You can attain success, happiness, fulfillment, and achievement in life despite having bipolar disorder. But at the same time, the bipolar experience is one that often sits at your core—in your brain, in your emotions, and consequently very much in your sense of who you are. It’s not in an elbow or a foot. Generally speaking, the experience of the disorder feels more like "being," as opposed to "having," yet you will hear people in normal conversation speak of both being bipolar and of having bipolar disorder.
by guest blogger Sheri Van Dijk, MSW, author of The Bipolar Workbook for Teens
I recently read an article about a study that compared high school and college students from 1938 to those in 2007, and concluded that mental health problems such as depression and anxiety are much more of a problem for modern-day students than they were in the past. It does seem that mental illness is affecting more and more people at a younger age – or perhaps we’re just more aware of these kinds of problems now. Regardless, there are things we can do to prepare kids better for the pressures they’ll be facing in life.
Excerpt from Making the Grade with ADD
People with ADD can find it rather easy to use their credit cards. It’s easy to forget that you’re spending real money. You just hand the cashier a plastic card; you don’t actually see the money leaving your pocket. And, since people with ADD are more likely to experience depression and anxiety, they may have a tendency to engage in “retail therapy,” raising their credit card bill.
excerpt from The Anger Workbook for Kids
It is important to become aware of situations that make you angry, to notice what you do when you get angry, and to recognize the consequences of your anger. An anger log is a tool to help you do all that.
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