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You’re thinking that you could never be the bully. Oh no, everyone likes you. Or maybe they don’t like you and they’ve teased you in the past, but you would never ever do to them what they did to you. Well, guess again. After all, you’re only human. If a situation presents itself, wouldn’t you be the slightest bit tempted? You probably would. But resist that temptation, or else the gossip-bully syndrome will go on and on, knocking everyone down and making school utterly and totally poisonous. You can choose to respond in a way that will make it stop.
Get a pen and piece of paper and answer these questions.
Situation 1
The most popular clique in school has suddenly shut out a girl who used to be right in there with them. This girl has practically tortured you all through middle school, and you and your friends nicknamed her “Living Nightmare.” Now that you have a chance to dish, you see her in the hallway.
Write a scenario in which you act out all your revenge fantasies.
Now write a scenario in which you turn the other cheek because you know what it’s like to be bullied.
Situation 2
You find out that the most popular girl in school has gotten awfully close to that cute guy in her math class, and the object of her affections has been spreading a rumor throughout school about what they’ve done. When someone whispers it to you in study hall, what do you say?
Write a scenario in which you respond to the whispered gossip.
...and more to do!
Reread all three of your scenarios. Which one is truest to the person you know yourself to be? Tell why.
excerpt from Coping with Cliques: A Workbook to Help Girls Deal with Gossip, Put-Downs, Bullying & Other Mean Behavior.
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